--- title: VIDEO: How to Approach the Subject of an Assisted Living Community description: Talking with your aging parent about moving to an assisted living community isn’t easy. 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They may overreact and say “Oh my gosh! How can you do this to me?” Change can be a scary thing. They may have a misconception of what an assisted living community looks like, associating it with a scary hospital setting. That’s why it’s important to approach your aging parent from a place of love and concern. Involving other family members whom your parent trusts during the conversation can help ease the tension. So, how do you create a plan for having this difficult conversation? Here are a few ways to prepare for having the talk: - **Talk with their doctor.** Contact your parent’s doctor and let them know about any concerns you have. Ask for their advice about what next steps you should take. - **Make mental note of incidents.** Keep a mental list of any incidents your parent has had, such as “Misplaced keys three days in a row,” or “Forgot to pay the bills again this month.” This can help guide your conversation with their doctor. - **Research different communities.** Search for different communities in your area that may be a good fit for your loved one. Having the conversation early and approaching it from a place of love and concern will help your parent know you have their best interest in mind. 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